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Where to Begin with Wedding Vows

Wedding Vows

The promises you make on your wedding day will be more important than any other part of the entire event. Writing your own wedding vows can make it all more meaningful. Putting your own thoughts and feelings on paper to read aloud on your wedding day creates an impact that you both will remember forever. These tips should help you write all the meaning into your wedding vows.

Start Somewhere

We have to start somewhere. Even when the final product will be a little piece of magic from your own heart, it is a good idea to look at tradition and all your favorites for inspiration. Religion and culture can shape the words you speak during the ceremony. Review religious writings and traditional vows that might add some structure to your own wedding vows. Poetry and all your favorite love stories will make it a little more romantic. Jot down all your favorite phrases and words to work with as your wedding vows take shape and become your own.

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Think About Your Promises

Your wedding vows are the promises you make to each other. Before you put the pen to the paper, decide what your expectations are in the relationship. Share your emotions, values and ideas. Make a list of words that define your relationship. Your list might include respect, cherish and love. Keep this list of promises handy for later. This point in the process requires that you decide whether you want to work together or write your vows separately. Saving the the words for the altar can create an emotional moment. Working together can be just as powerful, but allow you to share mutual vows together. Regardless of whether you do it together or separately, you should sit down and discuss important expectations for the relationship that you might want to include in your wedding vows.

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Create an Outline for Wedding Vows

You should create an outline that begins with the reasons this other person has your heart and all the reasons you cannot imagine a life without them in it. You might create a short story without saying too much. You do not want your wedding vows to be too long and wordy. With that in mind, try to convey your feelings and how you spiraled into an endless abyss of love with them. Think about the journey that keeps you falling deeper every single day. Relationships are not perfect. Your vows are promises that you will keep when things become less than the perfect fairy tale they are today. Your story must lead into that list of promises that you made earlier. Clearly state your promises to this beautiful other person.

Creating Unique Wedding Vows

Whether you open with a quote or a story that gushes with emotion, make your vows your own. They can be cute or funny or a meaningful variation of something traditional. The way to make your vows unique is to project your own feelings into your writing. You might begin with “I join my life with yours and become your life partner through all the twists and turns and ups and downs,” but you might have a very different version that is your own. You might include a unity cup and special words about the symbolism it creates when you share a sip of wine from one single cup. You might include a special reading, poem or a scripture from the bible. Get creative and own them.

Practice Your Wedding Vows

Practice is a must for all public speaking. Most of us become nervous speaking in public. Even when you will be surrounded by the comfort of your friends and family, you will be nervous. Iron out the wrinkles and make it flow. Feel comfortable saying your vows. Avoid the feeling of reading, while conveying the meaning. When you find your cadence and say it perfectly, you might want to make some edits. For this reason, write your wedding vows a few weeks before your wedding day, allowing time for all the practice and changes.

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